Who's Penis Is It? The Battle for Ejaculatory Control

Premature ejaculation is when a man ejaculates earlier than he or his partner would like him to. The sexologists Masters and Johnson defines Premature Ejaculation as being a state in which a man ejaculates before his sex partner achieves orgasm and this creates significant distress.

There is a war going on for ejaculatory control and it not about men gaining control of our penises. It all about which treatment is best men with premature ejaculation challenges. Predominantly, the help for men challenged by ejaculation issues has been from a Psychogenic perspective, but now the medical fraternity is fighting back and hitting us below the belt.

Premature ejaculation is big business. A high percentage of men are challenged with ejaculation timing issues within their lifespans. For some it just a temporary issue but for others it has been prevalent for many years. There are many suspected reasons causing PE such as lack of erotic training, stress and anxiety, alcohol and other drug usage, prescribed medication usage and chronic illnesses. However, it must be noted that in 1970 Masters and Johnson realised that many seemingly biological caused issues were in fact only the result of problem that can be fixed through erotic education and some simple applicable techniques.

Neurobiology is the new arena of battle where antidepressant drugs and PDE5 Inhibitors (Viagra, Cialis, Levitra) are used to treat erectile dysfunction,

Antidepressant drugs such as fluoxetine (Prozac), Clomipramine (Anafranil) and Sertraline (Lustral) delay climax. They are used mainly to inhibit serotonin re-uptake. These drugs need to be used a few hours before intercourse, which may be a problem in itself, and have been proven to be effective if taken on a daily basis. However there are a many unwanted side effects.

Another product used to overcome PE are nasal sprays. They work by spraying, the previously mentioned anti depressant Clomipramine, through the nose into the bloodstream. This works faster than taking the drug by mouth but still has all the usual side effects. The use of PDE5 inhibitors as a treatment for premature ejaculation is sometimes suggested to men who are challenged by both premature ejaculation premature ejaculation is sometimes suggested to men who are challenged by both premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.

So what is the medical fraternity battling? They don like the sex therapy and the psychological approaches that enable men to self regulate their ejaculation timing through re-education, awareness and behavioral training. They claim that the help that men receive is not back by scientific research. This is ironic as these approached have been successfully treating Premature Ejaculation since the 1960 The techniques used are Senate Focus, Stop Start Technique, Non Demand Pleasuring, the Squeeze Technique and Talk Therapy and Coaching.

Partners can be involved within the sessions and with home practice. However, if they are not available or a client is not partnered then an alternative is to practice with masturbation techniques or with the help of a somatic sex therapist like a Sexological Bodyworker or a Sex Surrogates. Sexological bodywork and Sex Surrogacy are not your everyday types of therapeutic treatments. Sexological Bodywork uses erotic touch to create a change or educate the receiver. Sex Surrogacy is different as it is erotic engagement with a client for educational or therapeutic reasons.

As this debate heats up and more research appears, it is important to understand that we should try to discover for ourselves how our bodies are and what can be changed. We can try different techiques of breathing, play with different positions, become more active during sex and train ourselves to be more aware of our arousal levels.